I believe it is difficult for ANY foreigner unless they have been living in Japan since a young age to be able to read situations and use the appropriate response. There is just so much to know.

Living with someone that doesn’t speak a word of your most comfortable language is a huge helper. But of course there is a downfall when you start picking up feminine speech patterns haha. You not only have to be mindful of what you say, but how you say it =) so people don’t start to assume the wrong things about you.

Your final point is a really good one, that I never really thought of but makes complete sense. Thanks for the input.

I’d say if one finds using such harsh language on a regular basis appealing, that person is probably an annoying a-hole anyway, whether it’s in Japanese or his/her own native tongue.

Lisa: I didn’t even think about that! haha, I was gunna comment on how stupid the title was but not about the fact that nihongo is in hiragana and abunai is in kanji. That makes absolutely no sense!